Separation In Marriage


I know the title of this blog may seem weird or confusing but I placed the above media from google images to sort of give you more of an idea of what I want to touch on today. My message is inspired by a sermon preached by Cornelius Lindsey called “The Divided Family” by Gathering Oasis a church he is the Pastor of. If you have not seen this message I encourage you to go and watch it on youtube now. The meaning of the title is, the couple is married but they are both going into two different directions instead of walking together in the same direction on one accord.

Mark 3:25 “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” NIV  I think this verse is a great explanation of how and why marriages fail if you will. Families are more divided than together nowadays and it’s for a number of reasons. The husband is headed in his own direction in the marriage and the wife is heading in her own direction in the marriage. With this happening how can the marriage survive that? let’s first talk about a marriage where one of the spouses is trying to grow in their faith while the other is stagnant or not a believer at all. In this example the wife and husband would be going in different directions. Which can lead to adultery, divorce, abuse and if children are involved it can really affect them in a negative way.

Husbands are you being the head of the home and loving your wife as Christ loved the church? This is a very important question for men (husbands) to ask themselves because that will let you know if you are following and obeying Gods word. If lets say husbands you are not doing the things in the above question I asked. Do you agree that maybe that is why the home is divided or why there is separation in your marriage? A lot of times separation happens in marriage because of the lack of communication and affection not being given or shown and if the marriage is not operating the way God intended it to.  If you are not talking to your wife about how you feel and different situations that may come up or occur in your life together, how can you be on one accord or how can you expect her to be happy? Since women are the weaker flesh how can you allow her to be the head of the home which verses you being the head of the home and you two making decisions together after talking to the Lord about it? Men you are the head of the home not the wife, so if you have placed your wife in a position that she is not equipped for how can your house stand and if you are not loving her the way Christ loved his church how can your house stand? So pray for you marriage and ask God to help you be the leader of your home and love your wife. If your wife is an unbeliever or stagnant in her faith than pray for her and witness to her through your actions, Godly actions. Also through your prayer and the grace of God she will change in God’s timing and in Gods way.

Ephesians 5:21-31,33 ” Submit to one another our of reverence (respect) for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body of which he is the savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, noon one ever hated their own bodies. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

Wives are you always nagging your husband, being disrespectful, selfish, trying to be independent and be the head of the home, yelling, not being submissive and demeaning him? If so why? How can doing all of these negative things bring you two closer together and on one accord? If you read Genesis 2:18 “The Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him.”  You’re suppose to HELP your husband not be the head of the home, that’s his job per the Lord and as the above scripture in Ephesians says you are also suppose to be submissive and respect your husband. If you’re being loud, rude, selfish mean and the other things mentioned above how can you expect your husband to want to communicate with you and show you affection and love if you’re making it hard for him to do that? You can’t blame him for everything and not take the responsibility for your part. If your husband is an unbeliever or stagnant in his faith then pray for him and witness to him with your godly actions and through your prayer and the grace of God he will change in God’s timing and in Gods way.

I think society plays a big role in why women do not want to submit to their husbands, why they want to be independent in their marriage and why men and women cheat on their spouses and or divorce. Why men treat women they way they do though their words and actions. We believers forget that we are in the world not of it and we follow what the world says submission is and marriage is instead of what God’s word plainly and clearly says it is. Listening to the world will draw us closer to it than closer to God. Only the bible (God’s word) can keep us near and draw us closer and closer to God. Everything we need is in his word, what we should do and how we should do it is in there we just have to read and study his word daily. The world will entice of with its ways if and only if we let it. I encourage you to check out these verse on marriage: Ephesians 5: 21-33, 1 Corinthians 7, Mark 10:5-9, Matthew 19:7,8, Matthew 5:31,32, Luke 16:18, 1Peter 3:7

God bless you


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© 2015 Jasmine Samilton

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