Jess and her husband have become very busy people, but they make sure they spend time with God even with the high demands of their jobs. When Jess and her husband first got married they both were just entering into their careers; so they had plenty of time to spend with each other and devoting their time together to God and praising him. As time went on and promotions came the less time they would spend intimately together besides going to church and reading God’s word. When it came time for them to be one with each other Jess was either too tired or her husband had to stay late and finish up some projects at work. There were a lot of excuses on both if their parts in why they didn’t have time to be one on a more regular basis besides maybe 2 or 3 times in a month.
With the lack of the oneness in their marriage Jess’s mind began to wander when spending time with a co-worker of the opposite sex, satisfied the loneliness she was beginning to feel emotionally. Upon her receiving this attention by just casual conservation with her male co-worker Jess began to start lusting after him. Once she was convicted about it she immediately began praying and she confessed her sins to God and then her husband. God led them both to 1 Corinthians 7:3-5.
There are times in our lives where we allow ourselves to become to busy to be intimate or one with our spouses. Or we are too angry with them, too tired etc. that we say no maybe later or tomorrow. That is exactly what the devil wants because we have no self control already and you just gave the devil room to come in and destroy. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (NIV) says “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way , the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may not devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because you have no self- control.”
Now to the unmarried I encourage you if you are having premarital sex please stop and devote yourselves to God so that you will not fall into sexual sin. Having premarital sex with every boyfriend you have, you are giving them a piece of you physically and emotionally what God has made specifically for the spouse he has for you. If you feel you cannot control the urges go to God in prayer and he will send a husband for you. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 says: ” Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried. As I do. BUT IF THEY CANNOT CONTROL THEMSELVES, THEY SHOULD MARRY, FOR IT IS BETTER TO MARRY THAN TO BURN WITH PASSION.” What Paul was saying here is, it is better to stay unmarried so that you can completely devote yourselves to God and what he has called you to do with out the added company of a spouse and family as paul did. However, if you cannot control those sexual urges than yes it is better to marry but marry the right person, the person God has for you.
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